It’s easy to let small disagreements and misunderstandings gather in a relationship. From forgotten chores to miscommunications, these unresolved issues can slowly chip away at the foundation of your relationship. Yet, there’s a simple habit that can prevent these cracks from widening: settling all accounts each day before going to bed at night.
While it may seem insignificant, the act of addressing and resolving any lingering issues before sleep can have a profound impact on the health and longevity of your relationship. Here’s why:
Develops Communication and Understanding
Regularly settling accounts encourages open communication between partners. It provides an opportunity to express concerns, share feelings, and clarify misunderstandings in a calm and constructive manner. Couples can deepen their understanding of one another and strengthen their bond.
Prevents Resentment and Bitterness
Unresolved conflicts can breed resentment over time. By addressing issues promptly, couples can prevent negative emotions from building up and poisoning their relationship. Settling accounts each day allows both partners to express their grievances and find mutually satisfactory resolutions, preventing small grievances from snowballing into major problems.
Promotes Trust and Security
Knowing that conflicts will be addressed and resolved in a timely manner will create a sense of security within your relationship. It reassures both partners that they can rely on each other to address concerns and work together towards solutions.
Enhances Emotional Intimacy
When couples regularly engage in the practice of settling accounts, they become more attuned to each other’s emotions and needs. This increased emotional intimacy develops a deeper connection and strengthens the bond between partners.
Encourages Gratitude and Appreciation
Take the time to settle accounts each night to express gratitude and appreciation for each other. By acknowledging the efforts and contributions of your partner, you can cultivate a culture of appreciation within the relationship. This positivity reinforces feelings of love and respect, creating a virtuous cycle that strengthens the bond between partners.
Conclusion
Ultimately, this practice can transform the way partners relate to each other, leading to a deeper, more fulfilling connection that stands the test of time. So, before you close your eyes each night, take a moment to settle your accounts and strengthen the foundation of your relationship.
If you liked this blog, you will love “Crashing Streams of Change,” by Moulton Mayers. The book’s theme is that love is the golden crown of the world; Despite having an early setback in their relationship, a couple insisted that they loved each other and vowed to remain together for life; applying what they called their “Tournament of Forgiveness and settling all accounts each day before going to bed at night.” The book is available on Amazon for purchase.